The Myth of the Zen Statue
People often walk into my office expecting a hypnotherapist to be a perfectly calm statue of Zen—someone who has mastered their mind to the point of silence and never has a "loop" running in the background. There is a common misconception that a healer is someone who is already “fixed,” “done,” and standing on the other side of the finish line.
But as I always say, awakening—or what Carl Jung called Individuation—is a lifelong process. To become "Whole" isn't to reach a state of perfection; it is the courageous act of meeting your shadows and becoming friends with your own darkness. My chair isn't a throne of perfection; it's a vantage point from the middle of the same journey you are on. I am not "done"; I am simply further along the path of integrating the parts of myself that I once tried to hide.
The Dangerous Fantasy of the "Soft" Healer
There is a specific trap that many of us—especially wounded empaths—fall into. We think that healing means we will eventually become so "spiritual" that we no longer have edges. Carl Jung warned us about this:
"There is a certain fantasy that lives inside the wounded empath... It is the fantasy that healing will make you softer, kinder, endlessly forgiving, more available, more radiant, more harmless... but the unconscious does not heal you in order to make you agreeable; the unconscious heals you in order to make you whole."
Healing isn't a "spiritual perfume" designed to remove your thorns. In fact, true wholeness often means growing stronger thorns. It means realizing that being "agreeable" was often just a survival mechanism. The unconscious doesn't want you to be a harmless saint; it wants you to be a Sovereign Being who can hold both the light and the dark without breaking.
I’m Just as "Messed Up" as Everyone Else
Here’s a secret from my chair: I have days where my coherence is low, where old habits knock on my door, and where my mind feels like a browser with fifty tabs open. If you’ve ever felt like a "work in progress" that never quite finishes, I want you to know: That is exactly why I can help you.
The Sherpa Philosophy
In the world of healing, I don’t see myself as a god sitting on top of a mountain; I see myself as a Sherpa. A Sherpa knows the mountain not because they are "better" than the hiker, but because they have fallen into the crevices, slipped on the ice, and found the way out a hundred times. My "cracks" are my map.
Dystonia as My Greatest Teacher
My journey into "Internal Coherence" wasn't a choice; it was survival. Facing physical challenges like cervical dystonia and blepharospasm forced me to look inward. These challenges were my initiations. They taught me that the goal of hypnotherapy isn't to delete your "old software," but to become the Programmer who recognizes the old script and chooses a new one.
Reclaiming Your Sovereignty
For my fellow empaths, healing is the act of reclaiming your sovereignty. Many of us live like a "colony" ruled by the moods of others. But you belong to yourself. Your energy is a sacred resource. When you own your mess, you stop being a mirror for everyone else’s unconsciousness and start being a light for your own path.
The Beauty of the "Quiet" Transition
There is a tricky stage in healing: The Quiet. As you heal, you stop scanning the room for danger. At first, this can feel like boredom or even loneliness because you might miss the "high" of the rescue mission or chaotic intensity. But this quiet is the sound of safety. It is where you stop mistaking "intensity" for "intimacy" and start choosing love that is stable and warm.
You Are Finally, Finally Free
Healing isn't about becoming "fixed." It’s about becoming whole. At Hypnosisbloom, we use the power of your subconscious to help you step out of the "wounded" role and into your Integrated Soul. You aren't losing your gift of empathy; you are finally giving it a home where it is protected and respected.
If you're waiting to be perfect before you start living, you're missing the miracle of being human. Stop hiding your cracks. Fill them with light - through the cracks - that’s how the light gets in.
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